Let us begin the most important discussion of our time in order to restore some sanity to this issue, and that is the importance of sex in spirituality and as a method towards enlightenment, and especially with regard to a guru having sex with his or her students.
I see nothing but insanity when it comes to the issue of the guru, especially a male guru, having sex with students. So many consider this pure sexual abuse of pure, but broken female spirits who have no will of their own, and are being used for the pleasure of the guru.
Let me set things straight for you. I awakened to an Advaita-like realization of the witness which transcends both the life force in consciousness in 1995. But it was incomplete. The awakening was incomplete because it had no bliss, no happiness, only peace and resting in the Void. In a sense, it was a numbing experience.
I had a second and I think greater awakening in 2010 with a female student who I loved with all my heart and incomplete devotional surrender, and with whom I definitely wanted a wild sexual relationship, but none was ever acted out. She also loved me with all her heart incomplete surrendered devotion. And her entire body and was constantly orgasming when she heard the sound of my voice telling her I loved her. I felt filled with Shakti, boundless energy, infinite grace, and felt total surrender and wanted only to be worshiping at her feet. Several months after our “affair” began, or we did nothing but speak to each other much of the day and speak about our love, I had an awakening of the life force.
I cannot even begin to describe the ecstasies, the surrender, the devotional love and worship that we both felt for each other, and the ecstatic energies and bliss that moved through us both so that we felt streams of colored energy circulating not only within our own bodies, but between us 2000 miles apart. I felt, and she also felt separately, the descent of a golden light through our heads into her body that felled us to the ground in complete worship of God as an immense figure in front of us. I felt, and she felt, utter grace, a washing away of all of our sins and becoming pure. I really cannot put into words the delight we felt in each other’s company in communion. Every moment was a blessing, every moment was filled with ecstasy, every moment we were licked by Shakti until we could not stand it anymore.
Years later I had a second awakening with a woman who has incredible Shakti power. We would sit next to each other in divine communion gripped by powerful Shakti, held in Her embrace until we both disappeared in divine ecstasy and power. Since that day I have had the power to be able to transmit ecstasy into some of my students, the ones who love me, who feel devotion towards me, and who want to surrender to me.
These two women gave me God-realization, which to me is more important than the Advaitic Self-realization of being the witness, watching consciousness as separate, as illusory, and being Unborn awareness. This realization of the divine may be incomplete in terms of the totality of the depth of one’s realization, but I think in itself is the paradigm for our time where love and devotion are so shockingly absent in our country and the world. In this way, I feel the way of Shakti, of devotion, worship and surrender is so much more important and much more gratifying than the numbness of the Jnani who rests in beatific peace for himself alone.
The much broader path is that of love, devotion, surrender of the personal self to the personhood, as well as the life force, the divine, in another human being. The God realization one obtains in this way is so sweet, so loving, so embracing, and yet so wild, unpredictable, and ecstatic as to bring one totally to life not only as a human, but as an embodiment of God.
It is for this reason alone, that I know that sex between a guru who has become the embodiment of love through years of his own or her own devotion and surrender, and sex with a completely worshiping, devoted and surrendered student of either sex, is just 1/10th I of a step short of God realization, and can lead one to God realization. Physical sex is not actually really required, but it is the idea of sex, the imagination of the sex between two people, to completely consenting people who lust for each other, or are devoted to each other, and worship each other, that lights up the Shakti within you and all the chakras in and about your body. There is nothing higher spiritually, or humanly, than such divine sexual imagination, or actual physical sex.
To an outsider who has never experienced such divine sexual surrender, there is no ability to imagine what is happening, and there is often a rush to judgment based on minds that are conditioned by society’s norms. But I am talking about going entirely beyond society, beyond life as you have known it, beyond humanness, to dwell within God through entirely surrendered devotion.
And it seems natural, and it always occurs, that this love is accompanied by lust, a locking together of the sexual and heart chakras in divine union, an ecstatic union, in bliss unimaginable to those who have not felt it in their daily lives, and which continues after the lovers part. You see, it is not about sex, it is about Shakti and how she moves in you, around you, and between two people in surrendered devotion. No one can get this unless they have experienced it. Before that, to outsiders who cannot understand, it is just sexual abuse, or being manipulated and used by the other.
At this point, I would like to provide a long quote from David Spero’s first book. The chapter is entitled, Divine Sexual Relationship.
“Sexual love is a natural yoga— it includes both renunciation and devotion. When properly understood and lovingly practiced, it fills the whole being with fulfilled Divine Radiance.
“Sexual Yoga is essentially the movement of the “prana” in terms of an unobstructed bully, emotionally vulnerable life that touches another life— that is fully relational from head to toe and takes one right to the outskirts of the body-mind, making it fully vibrational with Divine Intensity.
“Sexual yoga is highly misunderstood. The reason for that is there are teachings which emphasize techniques rather than utter naturalness.
“Each time two partners come together in mutual self-surrender, there is an exploration of kindness in terms of sexual body intimacy which cannot be duplicated anywhere else.
“The body-mine begins to produce chemicals of exhilaration, ecstatic chemicals which allow for the complete revelation of Light. Included within this is meditational experience, yogic experience and states of consciousness that might be explored through meditation.
“Each time these partners come together there is resting in divine repose prior to the beginning of sexual play, whether the partner’s be homosexual or heterosexual. In this divine repose the sense of individuality becomes merged into the feeling of loving communion, thereby stimulating the natural urge towards ecstatic feeling that happens when the partner’s bodies come together in love.
“This field of devotion becomes like a wildfire that leads to the Supreme.
I state it a bit more simply. Such ecstatic sex, whether imaginal or physical, is a submergence in the divine Shakti, it is a completion, arresting in God. This ecstatic state shows you how you can always feel when surrendered to the Shakti, drenched and bathed in bliss. This is your natural state, and sex combined with love takes you to the state of absolute relaxation where we are first capable of experiencing the totality of these enormous and ecstatic energies.