This
essay is about the guru/disciple relationship that is much, much different from
the psychotherapy model that Westerners now view as the correct ethics for the
spiritual relationship. It is not.
Westerners want clean relationships with boundaries and money exchanges to seal the deal. Fixed 50 minute sessions, fixed venues for therapy, payment of money, and proscriptions on behavior, also called “medical ethics.”
On the other hand the Eastern concept of
guru/student, or the relations between people outside of the medical context
are far more messy, have far fewer boundaries, and therefore tend to be
potentially much more powerful in transformative ability that psychotherapy.
My discussion here relates to the teaching methods of Sasaki Roshi who realized that different people require different approaches to awakening, enlightenment, or even functional health.
I
was with Sasaki briefly at Mt. Baldy during 1970. It was an awesome experience
and he an awesome teacher. For 50 years this alleged \"abuse\" was
going on and no one did much? Has anyone done other than accuse, blame, and
execute Roshi as some sort of sexual pervert? Has anyone examined the place of
sex between students and teachers in the various traditions?
I
have never had a teacher who was celibate, especially those who were supposedly
celibate monks: Not Maezumi Roshi, not Thich Thien-An, not Seung Sahn, not
Kozan Roshi, not Robert Adams, not Muktananda, not those in Baba’s tradition
from Da Free John, Rudi, Muktananda’s successors, and so an ad infinitum.
Why?
Is it that all Eastern spiritual teachers are sexual predators? Or is it that
there is something in romantic love, sexual or non-sexual, that is helpful for
both in terms of becoming human, and realizing one’s own self as a human/divine
coupling?
Or
is it that sex between teacher is viewed from a very limited point of view: no
sex between teacher and student, never. The behavioral boundaries of Western
Psychotherapy and Western medical ethics are applied to spiritual/human
relationships such as with teacher/student. I think this is misguided. I think
there is a lot to learn by investigating the actual relationships, actual
occurrences between the teacher and student, what emotions were brought out,
and if the student benefitted in any way from the experience.
All
that I see with regard to Roshi’s 50 years of teaching men and women, is almost
universal condemnation with not one minute spent on investigating the short and
long term effects of “romantic,” sexual, or just plain over-the-top devotional
love that two people can have with each other that can and will lead to
Self-Realization. Not the philosophical nonsence of No-Self, or Emptiness/Void,
but of realizing oneself as both human and divine.
The
universal allegation here is made of pain caused to students. But Zen is pain!
Staying at Mt. Baldy during a winter training session was pure pain. Freezing
cold, getting up at 3 am to shovel snow, the Kyosaku blasts by Ryoshu, and no
expression of love anywhere. It was the coldest place in the world.
Yet,
when I saw Sasaki in Sanzen, never was there a warmer character. I can imagine
the sheer warmth and acceptance a woman might feel if she felt loved in such a
cold place, enough to awaken devotion in both she and Roshi. This supposed
abuse went on for 50 years and it continued.
Everyone
and I mean everyone, knew of Roshi’s lap Sanzens. Women students knew even before they went
into their first Sanzen session with him.
Could
it be that everyone was learning from their human and koan interactions with
Roshi, becoming more human than the concentration camp externals would allow?
Instead of attacking Sasaki, ask him why he did what he did.
Was
there a conscious intent to reate a spiritual or psychological opening in each
case? I know Sasaki encouraged me to throw myself into the world first, as one
woman was told, and to get dirty, before finding enlightenment, and I
completely concur with this teaching for “some.” I would assume he would have a
different way of behavior towards a former prostitute. You see, Westerners want
all relationships to be “tidy” and well defined by money and contracts,
professional ethics, and predictability. But Zen wants messy, confusing,
spontaneous and open relationships with each other and with the world.
Unfortunately,
Sasaki comes from a culture of secrecy and silence, and everything but a
pleasant face is hidden. This is on him. I think this should be a time to learn
about the place of romantic love, sex, “groping” as crudely stated in
awakening. My own teacher was confronted by a woman during Satsang who asked
aloud in front of the entire group of 40 attendees, “Robert, why did you stick
your tongue down my throat.” After a long time he answered, “Because I thought
it was what you needed.”
I
fully understand that answer, do any of you, or are you caught up in a feminist
morality scrubbing? Let us learn what was going on, hear the results.
All
that I have read about Roshi in the last two years is a long list of
accusations and allegations of student’s pain.
Shit,
my life in Zen was constant pain, physical, emotional, random frightening
Kundalini experiences, and not having a clue as to what the Heart Sutra meant
even after studying it for 20 years. Read the Tiger’s Cave about a Zen Abbott
and his relationship and failings with parishioners. Learn what Sasaki was able
to accomplish in 50 years of doing the same thing over and over.
For
Muktananda and other energy teachers, there is the obvious notion of Shaktipat
of the most intimate sort. Tantric traditions focus on using sexual desire to
arouse the Shakti. The more you learn while practicing spirituality, deeply,
and honestly, the less judgmental you tend to get, because you understand more
deeply and you understand that human relationships are messy, and that Western
professional codes are attempts to limit and control the depth of a
relationship. I am saying there is a lot to be learned here.
See my video where I go into it deeper:
See my video where I go into it deeper:
Love,
Ed Muzika
Ed Muzika