Spiritual teachers have often spent their entire
lives exploring energy phenomena, processes of the subtle body, love,
kundalini, Shakti, as well as the sexual aspect of Shakti. These are not ordinary beings. They have developed a heightened awareness of
both themselves and the other, and all have developed a greatness of heart—that
is authentic teachers. And there are so
many, male and female, such as in the Shaivite tradition.
Ramakrishna, one of the greatest saints of the 19
century, was well-versed in the sexual aspects of the Shakti, and transmission
of the Shakti through various Tantric sexual techniques. But here in the West, they are not taught,
because in the West, sexuality is a highly charged subject and judgment for
discussion. Therefore, most teachers, if
they choose to use these techniques or teach these techniques, do so behind
closed doors so to speak. This is not an
open teaching. They would be judged and
found guilty of the most heinous alleged
crimes, and the entire sangha castigated and roundly criticized for having sex
with a student.
But what happens with a teacher who is highly
developed in the ways of Shakti, of love, of opening of the heart, feeling the
emptiness, becoming lost in the ecstasy of sexuality as well as into the heart
of his partner, it is not the awkward and tawdry affair it is for most people
except those who are desperately in love.
In the latter case, their experiences approaches that of the guru and the
loving disciple, male or female.
There have been so many scandals involving so many
gurus, that now it is a totally hidden subject.
Nobody is teaching it anymore for fear of the repercussions, lawsuits,
condemnation, public accusation, and lawsuits.
I want to read you something from a book by David
Spiro called sexual yoga:
“Expressing sexual love is the energy of divine
play. Innocence of touch and innocence
from the field of knowledge allow us to play in this divine garden. We are neither male nor female deep within
the body’s psyche, the core of existence, sexual love is a bodily play where
the deepest level of feeling comes to be expressed. In the height of sexual embrace the waves of
Shakti engulf, purify and transforms our lives into divine consciousness.
Breath, feeling, and contemplation of the source of
all beauty all merge in divine sexual love.
The yoga of sexual love is no different from any other worshipful
act. When the Supreme Beloved is felt
and seen in the human face of your beloved, the natural urge toward ecstatic
transcendence can be stimulated and filled.
Waves of divine bliss usurped the separate individual lives into one
consciousness.
It is necessary in divine sexual yoga that human
desire become yoked to the kundalini-Shakti through touch, breath and
meditational consciousness. The source
of beauty shines through the activity of sexual play and the purity of the
lover can glisten like the moon rise on a clear winter night.
Each person must become both Shiva or pure
awareness, and Shakti, divine energy. We
cannot assume a limited psychological identity and participate
ecstatically. As we move into our
emotional vulnerability, we find a child, parent, mother, father, brother and
sister wanting to love and be loved. It
is not possible to move into divine sexual ecstasy unless there is this vast
spectrum of felt lovability and infinite tenderness.
Sexual love draws us into the ultimate dimension of
our spiritual life; it fills the body with Shakti, vibrational power that
manifests this whole universe.
Celibacy is a natural condition for some spiritual
aspirants. For others, it is
unnatural. It is natural for those in
whom it comes unforced and is unnatural when it is accompanied by effort. So celibacy is often used to avoid emotions
which are disturbing or make one feel too vulnerable. Celibacy should not be a desired
condition. It has no inherent
superiority over a sexually active lifestyle.
The closest metaphor for divine love and total
awakening is expressing sexual love. The
most intensely fragile moment for human life are breathing and feeling the
Shakti as each other.
Both homosexuality and heterosexuality, spring out
of the total void. Unconditioned energy
is absolutely sexual. Spiritual life and
bodily life are one. I am tempted to say
that if you cannot maintain your self-realization in the posture of sexual
love, then you are not truly enlightened.
Have you ever seen the expressions of Shiva and Shakti in the
iconography of induced picture of spirituality?
You can see expressions of unfathomable tenderness to the point of
pain. It is not the sex act that is
creating the pain but the perception of immense beauty and the attempt to
express it bodily.
Devotion is endless love of God. To love beyond duration produces a state of
divine insatiableness. Then we begin to
know that we are being loved by that which loves us. In divine sexual love, when both the body and
emotions are yoked to the breath, which is established in the field of pure
consciousness, supreme love becomes expressible as human touch.
Sexual love naturally contains meditation and
devotion within it. Divine touch or
sexual loving this at the ground of existence naturally draws us into the
deepest part of our being. We offer what
we are bodily in kindness and delicacy.
To the one we love we become a doorway to the supreme.
Mercy and forgiveness are natural qualities in real
sexual intimacy. We must become humbled
by our own vulnerabilities. Divine
sexual love is not a sex act. It is
total surrender into one’s feeling. It
is not mechanical pleasure or successful sexual relations. There is no sex act because the whole field
of action is winding down, disappearing is one melts into one’s beloved.
Sexual hypocrisy or emotional-sexual phoniness is
one of the great diseases of our time.
Sexual hypocrisy originates in bodily-sexual ambiguity in the field of
touch and deep ignorance of one’s emotional nature. Functioning in such an un-clarified state
produces lukewarm sexual relations and robs the being of ecstatic sexual
participation and transcendental experience.
What is that allows such a vast compromise? Convenience, adherence to or rejection from
social norms, and the terror of seeing and being seen in the nakedness of love.”
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So very, very few lovers attain to this state of
total understanding of the grace of sexual love, and it need not ever be consummated. Just the deep longing for the embrace of your
beloved itself can set of cosmic-energy-like explosions of bliss, and feelings
of being loved as never before. A love
so deep and profound as to heal so many of our lifelong traumas of the past.
So look and listen carefully with this understanding in mind before you judge
gurus or teachers who have developed exquisite sensitivities to both their own
heart of hearts, but also to the hearts of their beloveds.
